My friend opened the drawer of his wife’s nightstand and took out a small package wrapped in white paper.
This, he said, is not a simple package, it’s underwear.
He threw the paper and looked at the precious silk of the set.
“She bought it the first time we went to New York, 8 or 9 years ago, she never used it”
I kept it for a special occasion. All right. I think this is the right occasion.
He approached the bed and supported the set next to the clothes that will lead her to the funeral home: his wife had just died. ”
He turned to me and said, “Never save anything for a special occasion, every day you live is a special occasion.”
I still think about how these words have changed my life. Now I read more and clean less, I sit on the terrace … and I admire the panorama without paying attention to the weeds of the garden. I spend more time with my family and my friends, and less work. I have understood that life is a set of experiences to enjoy, not to survive. I do not save anything. I use the best glasses every day. I put on my new suit to go to the supermarket if I feel like it. I no longer keep my best colony for special parties, I use it whenever I feel like it.
- “One day, …” and “one of these days …” have disappeared from my vocabulary
- If it’s worth doing now … why wait?
I do not know what my friend’s wife would have done, if I had known she would not be here tomorrow. I think he would have called his relatives and his closest friends, maybe he would have called old friends to apologize for old fights. I like to think that I would have gone to a Chinese restaurant, his favorite.
It’s these little unmade things that would bother me if I knew I had the hours counted. Annoyed because he would stop seeing friends that he would see “one of these days” … Annoyed not to write those letters he wanted to write … someday ..
Annoyed and sad because I did not tell my brothers and my children how much I love them … Now I try not to keep anything that would add laughter and joy to our lives … Every day I tell myself that this is a special day. Every day, every hour, every minute is special.